SELF AWARENESS AND COMMUNICATION

SELF AWARENESS AND COMMUNICATION


I recently learned: the absence, or limited engagement in the act of self awareness shows quickly and sharply in how one communicates with others. The way one speaks to someone else is often a reflection of how one speaks to oneself . Do you speak to yourself/treat yourself with compassion, or acerbity?Self awareness transcends the question "What do you say to yourself when...?" and begs to incorporate "How do you speak to yourself when....?" The former attends to thoughts while the latter attends to thoughts and intention.
Effective communication, then, is not a mere skill of speaking. It is a delicate art of balancing compassion with clarity, intention with delivery, asserting boundaries with opening space for dialogue, conveying a message with listening for impact on another.
Self awareness based communication remembers me, you and all of us;because being self-aware is being aware of the self in others...and being aware of others is being aware of their impact on the self.
Communication hides a secret power of influencing the climate of relationships; it comes armed with weapons of destruction and gifts of connection. When one chooses their words, they choose the relationship that is created as a result of those words. What is intended, what is said and what is heard results in the creation or destruction of connection...and connection thrives in the presence of self-awareness. It dies in its absence.

To connect is to be self-aware, to be self aware is to be aware of others, to be aware of others is to practice the art of compassionately clear communication, and to be compassionate to others, one must know how to be compassionate to oneself.

An ongoing lesson, and ongoing practice...much has been learned, much remains to be learned.